August 2018 | A Pretty Penny

5 Pieces Of Advice & 5 Years Of Marriage.

DRESS: Bohme (similar here) / Earrings: Sugarfix by BaubleBar / LIPS: Infinite Petal by Maybelline

SHIRT: Old Navy / PANTS: Gap

all photos taken by: Kayley Wilson

Today is Colin and I's 5 year anniversary! If you would have told me 5 years ago that I was going to meet a really handsome guy and be getting married 2 weeks after my 20th birthday I would have thought you were crazy! You know that saying "time flies when you're having fun"? Well that is marriage to a T. 

The past 5 years haven't always been easy, like any marriage, but they have been so fun and so worth it. If you would like to see all the photos from our wedding day, and hear all the details of our favorite day please read my blog post from last year.

Since we have hit the first big milestone in our marriage I thought I would give you 5 pieces of advice to get you to your very own 5 year anniversary. And hopefully 50+ more years after that! Because I'm shooting for eternity.
1. Communication. Communication in a marriage, or in any relationship for that matter, is key! We found that out pretty early on. Let' be honest, guys can't read minds, and neither can women. So talk to your significant other. When we were first married I was a little afraid to tell Colin what I really thought about certain things. I was a wimp. I also expected him to know what I wanted and got disappointed if those things didn't go through. I finally realized that he was never going to know what I wanted until I talked to him. 

Colin and I have gotten a million times better at communicating since we were first married. We always talk about everything! It makes marriage so much more enjoyable, and I never have to question anything because we are always on the same page. Listen to your spouse. Listening is a huge part of communication. Sometimes they just need you to listen to them.
2. Keep the romance alive! When you first get married every couple goes through the "honeymoon phase." Where you are so in love with each other and basically can't keep your hands off of one another. After we were married couples would always tell us that the honeymoon phase would wear off and after 5-10 years you wouldn't be nearly as affectionate. I think I was determined to prove those people wrong, because I have done everything I can to stay just as in love, if not more, than when we got married. I would say it is a success! People constantly are asking us how long we have been married because we act like newlyweds. The spark is still alive!

You want to keep the spark alive and remember why you fell in love with your significant other. You can leave little notes for them reminding them why you love them, buy lingerie every once in while to spice things up, hold hands, cuddle, and always go to bed with a kiss! Just let your significant other know you still care about them.

One of the best things we did a couple years ago was take a love language test. There are 5 different love languages and the point of the test is to see how your partner need to be loved. Because usually, unless you know your SO's love language, you love them how you want to be loved. Once we took this test it helped us understand how the other person needs to be loved. Otherwise their needs might not be met. Mine are: physical touch and "gifts". I love being affectionate and Colin always makes sure to shower me in hugs and kisses. I also love receiving gifts. It doesn't have to be expensive, but I love getting notes, flowers or just a little something to know Colin is thinking of me. 
3. Never talk bad about your spouse to anyone. Someone gave me this little piece of advice when we first got married and I have tried to honor this advice and my marriage by sticking to it. I know sometimes your spouse/significant other can drive you crazy and you want to vent about it, but try to keep the venting to a minimum. Once you talk bad about your spouse to someone it is going to put your spouse in a negative light. Just because they are getting on your nerves at the moment, you will probably get over it and see them with heart eyes once again. 

Once you say something negative about them you can't take it back, and I guarantee whoever you spoke to won't forget. I have also never wanted anything like that to get back to Colin. So I have tried to keep our frustrations within our marriage, instead of bringing others into it. No marriage is perfect, and you have to work on it together. 
4. Make time for each other. Colin and I both have crazy schedules. Between work, school, more work, families, and my blog, it seems like we hardly have time to spend with one another during the week. But one thing we have always done, without fail, is have a date night. I love the saying, "continue to date your spouse even after your married." I think dating after you're married is MORE important that dating before you're married. It shows you are still making an effort to get to know your spouse even after you say, "I do." Because after everything life throws at you, you change. But hopefully you change together!

At least once a week, usually on Friday's or Saturday's we go on a date. It gives us time to just be with one another and not have to worry about the stress of the week. As a couple you need to spend that designated time with one another. It doesn't always have to be fancy, but it is a great way to catch up and just be together without having to worry about anything else. 

One of our favorite dates is dinner and a movie. We love the movies! So we usually get popcorn, snacks and head to the theaters. We also like to try at least one new restaurant a month. Yes, we have our favorites, but it is also fun to try something new together. We also like to take turns planning dates for each other. So one person doesn't have to do everything. It is nice to serve your significant other and do something for them. You don't even have to go out! You could plan games at home or go for a picnic. Just plan a time to spend together. 
5. Say "I'm Sorry." Sometime's all I want when Colin and I argue is for him to admit I'm right and for him to apologize. But after thinking about it I usually shallow my pride and say "I'm sorry." I know this might seem like a silly piece of advice. But to me, being okay with Colin is way more important than staying mad. Life is short and I would rather be happy and spend it with him and dwell on silly little things. I like to think I am a little wiser and older after 5 years of marriage, but I still have a lot to learn and grow. Luckily he is patient with me and spoils me to death.

Happy 5 years handsome.



My First rewardStyle Event...

TOP: Bohme / PANTS: ASOS / SHOES: Old, similar here / BAG: Gucci / EARRINGS: SugarFix by BaubleBar (black sold out, similar here) / LIPS: Birthday Suit by Tarte

Last week I had the amazing opportunity to attend my first rewardStyle event with the team! When I first got the invite I really thought they might have sent the invite to me by mistake, because I know how exclusive their events are. The day before the event I met with Jenna, who is a part of the team, she gave me a lot of pointers on my blog, as well as told me they are trying to include lots of bloggers with their city tour.

I know how over the top the rewardStyle events are so I couldn't wait to attend! The day of the event there was a huge thunderstorm, so we had to wait until the storm calmed down to head over to where the event was being held. They hosted the SLC City Tour at Log Haven up the Millcreek Canyon, and it was absolutely beautiful!

I got there about a half hour late due to weather, but there were a lot of gal pals that I knew. One thing I love about events like this are the fact that I get to see my blogger friends, as well as make new ones!

If you are a newer blogger, one piece of advice I would give to you when going to events like this are to talk to at least 5 new people. I get so nervous when I go to these things because I don't know who I am going to know when I get there, and usually there are some big bloggers there! If you are nervous I'll let you in on a little secret: we all are! Talking to other bloggers, we are all nervous to initially be there. It is intimidating and usually out of our comfort zones. Once you start to introduce yourself to new people your circle will start to expand and you will recognize new people with every event you go to!
Once the storm passed they were able to bring out all the decorations again and we were able to head on over to the main event. Since the weather put a damper on things I think we didn't get to do some of the things they had planned, so we mostly mingled for the remainder of the time we were there.

The theme for the SLC City Tour was "glamping", which was perfect since it took place in the mountains. They had this cute yurt set up with a gorgeous floral arrangements covering it! As well as the perfect seating area, which is every fashion bloggers dream. It was right next to a cabin and a lake. It looked straight out of a movie.
There were lots of photo ops and fake laughing, but we were eating it up! I just have to say that I am so thankful for all the girls at this event. They are all so amazing and incredibly nice! I really have such an amazing group of blogger friends.

Also, how cute are these Coke bottles? The team did a phenomenal job, down to the last detail! 
After we mingled for awhile, they had a cute "craft" for us to do. They all know us so well, because there isn't a fashion blogger out there that could pass up a straw bag. There was a beautiful set up with a bag for each of us. We had the opportunity to "embroider" our own bag using the string and scissors they provided for us. They had the cutest examples including this "" bag, which I couldn't get enough of!

It was such a fun event filled with amazing women who are all so positive! I absolutely loved being with the rewardStyle team and I can't wait to hopefully attend more in the future!



Why You Shouldn't Let Your Bucket List Wait...

JUMPSUIT: Olive Avenue Boutique (similar here) / EARRINGS: Sugarfix by BaubleBar / SHOES: Maurices (similar here)

If you are anything like me, then you have an ever growing bucket list. From places to go, landmarks to see, and food to eat. And, if you are really like me, then it always seems like you are adding to your bucket list, but never actually crossing things off.

So this year I came up with a solution! I decided that I was going to cross one big thing off my bucket list a year, since most of the bigger things tend to be more expensive. Then, for every season, I wanted to make a smaller bucket list. Things I wanted to see, as well as small trips throughout Utah. It has been so much fun making the most of each season and rediscovering Utah. Even now I can picture "seize the day" from newsies!

One of my good friends, Mallory, is great at making a "Summer Bucket List" with her kids. They come up with a huge list of things to do all summer long and they are always having so much fun. I have always wanted to go see hot air balloons take off. They have a couple festivals in Utah and I thought I had missed them all. Mallory and I go to the gym often together, so she told me about this hot air balloon festival that was happening in Sandy, UT one morning. So we both woke up early and made it to see them blow up! If you know me, you know I am not a morning person, but it was so worth it to wake up early to see this. It was almost magical! (She also has an amazing traveling instagram and they go everywhere! It gives me serious wanderlust vibes.)

It is for events like this that I am so glad I don't let my bucket list sit, and I really "seize the day". I love to add things that don't even cost money, like this hot air balloon festival. I start by googling and researching local events for each season. So I can get an idea of what I want to add to my bucket list that season. I have just barely started getting ready for fall and can't wait to share all the fun things we will be doing!

What is one thing that you have on your bucket list that you are going to do this year?